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What should violence prevention look like in our communities?

In December of last year, almost 100 participants from Sudbury, Wayland, Lincoln and surrounding towns joined in a forum to address this challenging and important question.  Those who gathered included educators, psychologists, counselors, selectmen, state legislators, police officers and students.  The forum was convened by the Sudbury Wayland Lincoln Domestic Violence Roundtable and held at Wayland High School.  Malcolm Astley of the Lauren Dunne Astley Memorial Fund and Jessica Teperow of REACH Beyond Domestic Violence facilitated the conversation. The forum provided a setting for reflection, brainstorming, networking, planning and action toward preventing violence in ourselves, our relationships, homes, neighborhoods and towns.

The participants at the December 2014 forum identified a long list of strategies for preventing violence in our communities. The group then narrowed the list to some priority responses with the most support among the members for follow-up. The priority action steps included the following suggestions:

  • Begin communicating with very young children about healthy, respectful and effective relationships and recognizing and responding to at risk situations and conflict effectively.
  • Set up safe places for our young people for regular dialogue about real concerns, worries and challenges.
  • Reward nonviolent behavior and standing up for others, and provide training for standing up for others in safe ways.
  • Within the violence prevention domain, build concepts and vocabulary equivalent to “Designated Driver” and “Friends Don’t let Friends Drive Drunk” (such as “Designated Caretaker,” “Up Stander,” “Friends Don’t Let Friends Go Alone to Breakups”).
  • Provide Mentors in Violence Prevention training
  • Support coaches in educating for and emphasizing accountability
  • Define healthy relationships.
  • Provide support systems around breakups.
  • Support peers communicating with peers.

Continuing the Conversation

Over the next ten months, the Sudbury Wayland Lincoln Domestic Violence Roundtable (“the Roundtable”) will continue this conversation at our monthly meetings. The Roundtable will also host several community programs featuring experts in violence understanding and prevention and community engagement. We hope that family, friends, neighbors and professionals will join us for these conversations and programs as we explore ideas and actions that can help us understand and prevent violence in our communities.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Mark your calendar for October 13 at 7pm for the October program of the Roundtable, a panel and discussion entitled “Continuing the Conversation: Helping Children and Youth Learn to Cope with Common Childhood Challenges.” These typical challenges include experiences of sudden change, loss, failure, shame and rejection which can have traumatic impact on young people. Helping kids learn to cope with these “normal” traumatic experiences can build deep self-confidence and resilience and prevent future extreme pain and harm. The panelists for this important program will be Joel M. Ristuccia and Stephanie Howard.

Stephanie Howard, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and director of "Project We Can Talk About It," the domestic violence team at Children's Charter, a division of The Key Program, Inc. She has provided training and consultation to DV and DA advocates, day care and school teachers, DCF social workers, police officers and court personnel.

Joel M. Ristuccia is a certified School Psychologist with over twenty-five years’ experience working in the public schools. He has served as a consultant on the impact of trauma on student learning to the Trauma and Learning Policy Initiative (TLPI) and is a co-author of “Helping Traumatized Children Learn”. Additionally he has consulted and presented on topics related to the impact of trauma on learning and on the role of trauma in student behaviors that can lead to punitive discipline and school failure. He is an Adjunct Professor at Lesley University teaching courses in developing trauma sensitive school wide, classroom and individual interventions to support all students to be successful in the general education curriculum.

The program will be held at the Goodnow Library in Sudbury.  

During October, you can also think about how you will continue the conversation in your own home, faith community, neighborhood or workplace. There will be activities all over the Commonwealth during October so check the Roundtable’s website for more information.

We look forward to seeing you on October 13